For ages, there has been this totally outrageous belief that you have to be a jerk to get the girl. This leads people to ask the age old question: Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
Well, recently on LS Live, Chris and Derek discussed the question of whether women like nice guys, and whether nice guys finish last, or is it possible for a good guy to overcome the odds and get the girl?
Check the video and find out:
But the reason that this question comes up is that being nice isn’t all it’s cracked up to be…
Somewhere along the line, one nice guy ruined it for every nice guy. He met a girl that he liked and thought “hmm how can I make her like me?” And before she was really interested in him at all, he took it to another level. He showered her with gifts and affection, flowers, fancy dinners and everything under the sun that she ever asked of him, thinking that it would make her fall for him.
To summarize…Instead of ‘woo-ing’ her, he ended up doing the opposite and freaked her out.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should be an asshole just to get the attention of women, but putting on a facade of niceness just so people will like you, is almost as bad when it’s not genuine.
At the end of the day, I agree with Chris, being “nice” just isn’t quite good enough. You need to be MORE than just nice. You need to be a man of integrity, a man who respects himself and others. A man who stands up for what he believes in. If you are THOSE things, you can be a “nice” guy and still finish first. But if you’re just “nice’ because you don’t want to rock the boat, you’re not going to make the cut. Bending over backward to be nice to someone just so they will like you, isn’t doing anyone any good if that means sacrificing your own boundaries and integrity.